Says one millennial — a 24-year-old woman — quoted in "Put a Ring on It? Millennial Couples Are in No Hurry/Young adults not only marry and have children later than previous generations, they take more time to get to know each other before tying the knot" (NYT).
If it’s just love, I’m not sure it would work... But if it's also not just love, but includes all of those things you've consumed youthful years sorting out, you still won't be sure it will work. The question isn't how can I be sure...
... it's how sure do I need to be before I merge my fate, in these few short years I have on earth, with another human being? All of life is a leap into the unknown, and life sweeps by, leaping all around you, even if you stand back, unleaping. Everyone is getting older, and those who hold back, seeking security and hoping somehow eventually to find themselves, may find a lonely, inflexible self that never truly loved.
IN THE COMMENTS: Darrell said:
Luckily, you can run away at the first sign of trouble.Mr. D said:
The only thing you can know is that your circumstances will change, so make sure the person you're with can adapt to the changes.Is the incoherence intended as humor? As a sympathetic reader, I'll assume yes.
Darrell said:
Want to be sure? Find a beautiful 60-year-old then go back in time and grab her at twenty. That'll give you forty good years.Eleanor said:
We're raising kids who are not allowed to take risks. Failure is not an option we give them. They've grown up risk-adverse. It should come as no surprise they're very cautious about getting married. Marriage is a leap of faith. Whether one makes lists and tallies up all the pros and cons, or just jumps off the cliff, it's a big risk. We've been married 45 years, and it was the best return on any investment either of us has ever made, but we didn't think about it that way at the time. We were just two kids who held hands and leaped.If you're ever going to jump, you might want to jump young. Not jumping is taking a different risk.
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