"You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams."
A quote from — of all people — Dr. Seuss. That's the third-most-like quote
at Goodreads on the topic about which people have registered the most "likes" — love.
I got there this morning because I was having a conversation in which I needed to remember the quote, "
I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."
I was surprised to see who the quote was from because I thought it was something that Rush Limbaugh says a lot. But why was I surprised?
I blogged about that quote just 4 years ago. It's a quote about remembering and forgetting, and I keep remembering the quote and forgetting who said it.
IN THE COMMENTS: Bill Peschel said:
Maya Angelou never said it. She didn't even improve upon an existing quote.
It was really said by a Mormon official, Carl W. Buehner, in 1971: "They may forget what you said — but they will never forget how you made them feel."
There's no evidence Angelou said anything like this.
This commonly happens with quotes. There's even been cases where a phrase as simple as "Elementary, my dear Watson," the seed for which was planted in the original books, improved by William Gillette in his "Sherlock Holmes" play, but the actual direct quote came from, of all people, P.G. Wodehouse in one of his school stories.
In short, never trust quotes from Goodreads or BrainyQuotes.
Bill provides
a link to Quote Investigator, which concludes:
In conclusion, based on current evidence QI suggests that Carl W. Buehner can be credited with this adage. Many people have used the saying without ascription in the years after 1971. The attribution to Maya Angelou is unsupported at this time.
GoodReads is a big website. It often comes up first or close to first when I google something (as I did before writing this post). And here's a misattributed quote that ranks #1 for quotes on the #1 topic! Mental note never to trust GoodReads.
I wonder if Dr. Seuss said "You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams," which I blogged because I thought it was so
dumb (yet ranked so high).
It's dumb for at least 2 reasons, one of which is indicated by my post title: Your real life could be better than your dreams because you are having
bad dreams, and it's possible that your lover is giving you nightmares that are worse than what is actually a bad relationship. The other reason is that the insomnia is a problem that diminishes the quality of your life. It's much better to get a good night's sleep and be in good condition to enjoy the next day with your loved one. It's one thing to stay up late (or even all night) because you're having a great time with someone — perhaps having sex for hours while telling each other the story of your life thus far — but that's not a sustainable love. You need your sleep. And who goes to sleep because they're just eager to dream? The motivation to sleep is that you are
tired and you care about feeling good the next day!
Okay, now that I know not to trust Goodreads, I'm checking whether Dr. Seuss is responsible for the idiocy the Goodreads crowds liked so much. Ah! According to
this discussion at Wikiquote, there's no evidence that this quote came from Dr. Seuss. Seuss innocent. Goodreads guilty.